I Got A Sexist Email From A Local Business and I Am Not Going To Stay Quiet

I started Don’t Be Common Fashion when I was 16 because I saw an issue in the fashion world;  I hated how people were judged by showing who they were through their clothing.

Don’t Be Common Fashion started five years ago, and has since evolved into a business that I am very proud of.  I have worked with many companies – I work with large companies, ethical brands – and being a student in Burlington, I love to reach out to local companies and create partnerships.

The best way as a blogger to expand your base is to work with other companies. You gain more followers by blending platforms with other businesses to reach a novel audience.  I worked with companies with both fewer and more followers than me. I have even worked with  brands that are not my target audience.

Working with varied brands is successful because my target audience is millennials and millennials love learning about new brands.  They are intrigued by the stories behind companies. Therefore, instead of just highlighting how amazing the products are I share the story behind the brand. As a result, the brands I’ve worked with have had positive experiences.

Rarely, I have a negative experiences working with brands. A recent response I received, grossed and creeped me out more than any other response I’ve ever read.  As a blogger, I am always reaching out to companies, to try to expand my reach and also theirs. When I send out press emails, there is a larger chance I get a no rather than a yes, but even when I get a no, the response is normally positive about the business I created.

Then, I got this response:

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Before getting this email, I sent my press statement to this Burlington business. As a college student, my Instagram is one way in which I collect a meager income to live my life; it’s not something that’s a joke.

I was initially unsure how to react to this business owner’s comments. I showed the email to a few of my friends. Some of them work at ski shops in Burlington and are familiar with the environment at this particular business. This business has no females working there and had previously had a job posting promoting themselves as a “Great place for you to talk bad about your girlfriend”.

This brings me to the “@buttsnorkler” suggestion.  I had no idea what this Instagram was, but if you search it on Instagram it is a bunch of pictures of some bare butts.  A connection of mine asked the owner of this business about his response, and it was ” Her Instagram is all about sex, therefore she was asking for this response”. While I do not deny that I have one picture of a bare butt on my Instagram page, the irony of this business owner’s comments was clearly lost as I was using it as a vehicle to discuss the phenomenon known as “slut shaming”.

Here’s a comparison of my Instagram and the Instagram this local business owner believes my photos are a good fit for.

 

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Recently, it feels like  every day there’s a new high-profile celebrity that is brought up on sexual harassment or assault claims.  When I received this email, I needed to figure out the best way to respond – in a way that I believed would create the most poignant impact and create something that could help someone else with an experience similar to mine.

Coming forward about being sexually harassed or sexually assaulted is not an easy thing to do.  When I was younger, I had a job and the male employees acted very inappropriate towards me, and I had no idea what to do about it, and didn’t have the voice to speak up about it.

The fact this this person who owns a business, is very involved in the Burlington community, saw no issue with the comments he made, disgusted me. Being in the position I was in, I felt writing this was the best way to speak out against sexual harassment.

I couldn’t just move this email into my trash and not say something that could benefit someone who has, had, or will have a similar experience to mine. My little cousins read my blog, and in a few years they will be entering the workforce. I want them, and others their age to feel powerful to stand up for themselves if they ever are in a position like this. Sadly, we don’t live in a perfect world and sexism is something that exists. I don’t want any of my readers to feel like it is not okay for them to stand up to someone or feel isolated in their situation.

The social media campaign “#METOO” showed how many people are affected by sexual assault and harassment.  I want the people who read my blog to know that sexual harassment is something that they can stand up to themselves, not let anyone make themselves feel less than, and remind them, that they too have a voice that can speak out against sexual harassment they may suffer.

 

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My Top 5 Chic Ski Essentials So You’ll Look Cute While Hitting the Slopes

Ski season is finally here, which it being my last winter in Vermont, I’m pretty pumped about it.  Skiing can be fun, but nothing is fun about being cold and also not looking cute.  My years of going to the slopes and my knowledge of amazing brands will give you all you need to look amazing this winter.

1. Patagonia jacket

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You can’t be chic skiing without a cute jacket.  Patagonia jackets are well made, warm, and are also a great ethical company.  One of the best things about Patagonia is they have a warranty on all their items and if you happen to crash during your run, your jacket is protected.

2. Krochet Kids Hats

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Krochet Kids works with women who are living in poverty-stricken areas.  Their hats are extremely well made and warm.  Buying one of their hats is supporting women build a future for themselves.

3. Hot Chilly’s Fiesta Leggings

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There are so many base layers for skiing and no layer has every been warmer than these leggings.  I literally keep them by my bed and put them on before I take my dog for a walk every morning.  They have wonderful prints for every style.

4. Sorel Waterproof Wedges

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A few weeks ago I was getting my hair done and my hairdresser mentioned these boots.  Not only are they extremely cute, they’re also waterproof and perfect for the winter months.

5. Cowl Vermont Knitting Company

IMG_2697.JPGVermont Knitting Company is a partnership between Leslie and Kelsey, and they make some of the warmest knitting accessories.  I have their luxe cowl, which I love for the winter months because it keeps my neck extremely warm.

Last Minute Burlington Shopping Guide

After a very stressful semester, you have no idea how excited about Christmas I am, and one of my favorite parts of Christmas is getting people the perfect gift.  Being someone whose dream is to one day own her own business, I love supporting local businesses in Burlington.  I find myself very lucky to be surrounded by amazing small businesses.

For the coffee lover on your list…

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Speeders & Earls began roasting coffee in Burlington’s South End in 1993.  Over the past 20 years, they quickly have grown.  I don’t think I go to class without seeing multiple Speeder & Earl’s cups.  Speeder & Earl’s has multiple gifts for your coffee lovers.  As a self-described coffee snob, nothing is better than a travel mug and Kona Blend Coffee which are delivered from Hawaii.

For the vintage lover on your list…

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Photo Courtesy of Downtown Threads

Downtown Threads started in 2010 with the purpose of keeping money locally and supporting eco-friendly shopping habits.  Downtown threads has the best selection of consignment, new, vintage, and local artist creations.  This holiday season their store is featuring local artist merchandise.  They have a special deal this holiday season (December 23rd & 24th) and will be offering 25% off a purchase of $40 or more.

For the person who’s always cold on your list…

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Whim was founded in 2007 by Melissa Desautels, focusing on casual chic, it’s your one-stop for jeans & tees.  Whim has so many great gift ideas, but my favorite would be a Shit I Knit Hats.  I cannot describe how amazing these hats are, I wear mine every day, and would feel naked without it in Vermont’s winter.

For the bohemian home lover on your list…

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Tangerine is owned by a 5th generation Vermonter Megan O’Brien, growing up in Burlington she knew trends tended to be a little expensive.  She wanted to start a business that was something young professionals and college students, who don’t have a lot of disposable income to spend on fashion.  This planter is perfect for the bohemian goddess on your list who needs a planter for her succulents, also it is made in America.  This holiday season they are offering buy one scarf get one 50% off and 30% off the sale rack.

For the boot lover on your list…

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Dear Lucy Shoes probably has the best selection of shoes I’ve ever seen in a small business and I’ve never wanted a trust fund more walking through that store.  They have a great selection of slippers, sneakers, and my favorite their Frye boot collection.

For the bag-obsessed on your list…

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Liebling on College Street is the perfect place to get a chic bag for the person on your list can never have enough handbags.  Their collection is great for the fashionista you need to impress with your stylish gift choice.

For the guys on your list….

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Warner Supply is probably the only store you have to stop to find the perfect gift for the guys on your list.  They have a great selection of Runamok Maple, Zeus Beard, Coal hats, Redwing boots, Ranger Station candles, and many other amazing gifts.  It’s the perfect place to get your babe a cute flannel you secretly plan on making yours in the future.

The gift for the person on your list who loves goods with a story….

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Common Deer stocks their shelves with goods that are full of story.  Focusing on Made In America and small batch manufacturing.  Their manufacturers employ thousands of American workers and support thousands of families.  Inside their store, they have a gift for just about everyone on your list, including your furry friends.

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My favorite items from their shop are their Woolrich blankets, a perfect gift for your mom.  American made slippers that will make you never want to put on real shoes.  A local inspired pint glass for the IPA lover in your life.

For the person who loves a splash of color in their life…

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Old Gold opened 40 years ago, selling military surplus and used clothing, today the store houses an extensive inventory of new costumes, accessories, formal wear, cowboy boots, and much more.  Recently they just got in tons of accessories, but these berets are perfect for New Years! They also have berets without sequins, but get there before I buy the gold one.

For the juice lover on your list…

 

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Vermont Juice Co. is the only place in Burlington to get fresh cold pressed juice.  They’re founded by a native Vermonter and addition to juices and cleanses, they offer made to order smoothies, acai bowls, super food bowls, wellness shots, chia pudding, and other seasonal food items.  This holiday season they are offering deals on their Cold Pack cleanse and their DIY nut milk gift kits.

For the person, you have no idea what to get…

 

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Birdfolk Collective is technically not in Burlington, but it is my favorite store in the area, for many reasons.  The reason I titled this “The person you have no idea what to get” is because I went into Birdfolk a few weeks ago, with no idea what to get someone.  Within minutes I found the perfect gift.  This store has an amazing collection of items, that are perfect for the person you are still struggling to find the perfect gift.

For the Jewelry lover on your list…

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Rackk & Ruin was founded by Molly Conant who in 2009 experimented with natural materials including, feathers, leather, metal in her jewelry.  I started following Rackk & Ruin on Instagram a few years ago and become obsessed with their unique pieces and stumbled upon their Pine Street shop and now every time I have a hair appointment I have to go in because their shop has an ever-changing assortment of treasures.

 

4 Ugly Christmas Sweaters You’re Gonna Wanna Insta

One thing during Christmas that seemed like it was gonna be a one season fad, but is sticking around is Ugly Christmas Sweaters.  I don’t know how this is still trending because IMO I’d rather wear a cute dress, but I guess the sweater hides the cookies?

1. Women’s Stocking Stuffer Sweater

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The most annoying thing is poring your drink and you end up getting distracted, before you know it you’re out that cheap bottle of wine you picked up.  With this sweater you will always know were your bottle is.

2. Where’s Your Hoe

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If you’re one of those people who are into couple things then here ya go.  Or even better you and a friend wearing these, expesially if you have a friend that can get lost.

3. Deck Yourself Before You Reck Yourself

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I’ve never seen a statement that is so true about Christmas parties.  You gotta be flawless no matter how much you’re partying.

4. Light Up Christmas Tree

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What is better than having a Chritsmas tree on your sweater that acutally lights up? Nothing, I tell you, this is perfect for any holiday party.

 

These Are The Most Popular Halloween Costumes, So Don’t Risk Being Basic

Even though it is still 80 degrees and it so does not feel like fall, soon it will be Halloween, which means you need to start planning your costume or costumes, because well unlike when you were a kid halloween is a weekend affair. I thought of proably one of the most creative costumes out there, or just so weird and out there no one would ever of thought of it.  Which I’ll release my list of costume ideas in the following weeks.  Here’s my list of the most poplar costimes you’ll see everyone wearing this year.

Pennywise From “It”

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Last year this costume would so not of been chill, with all the clown shooting.  But thanks to It and the upcoming season of American Horror story get ready to see some creepy clowns and some balloon.  PS. It is actually amazing and Pennywise is hot af irl, I know creepy.

Rick and Morty

 

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I get so much Sh*t for not knowing what this show is, so I promise when it’s break I’ll bindge.  At my college you can’t go anywhere without someone mentioning this show.

Any “Games of Thrones” Character

 

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For some reason, it’s like Games of Thrones just started, cause the amount of times I’ve heard “Winter is coming” this year is a little crazy.  I blame Ed Sherren.

Wonder Women

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2017 was all about strong, powerful, badass women and let me just say it’s about time.

 

PupJoy Review

Anyone who know me, knows I’m a little too obsessed with my little puppy Eleven and I love to spoil her.  I love getting subscription boxes and there’s so many different options it is really easy to not know what the right box is for you and your dog.

My favorite thing about PupJoy is they give you the most customizable options.  My dog has a very sensitive stomach and she only gets her food and one type of treat.  Therefor I love that PupJoy gives you the option to have a box that is only toys. They also have options to do a mix of toys and treats, just treats, or what I got that was just toys.

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My dog is probably one of the pickiest little puppers when it comes to toys.  She has her favorites, some she’ll randomly get excited about and run around the house with, and some she will never touch.  In my box there was a great variety of toys.

Her box included a PupJoy Brewing treat dispenser, PupJoy Bad To Da Bone Ballistic Stuffless Toy , Doog Stick Elwood, Duck with tennis ball, and Zingfling.

Immediately right when I opened the box Eleven fell in love with this Duck, it was almost impossible to get a photo.  My favorite part about this duck is there is a tennis ball inside, which makes it super easy to play fetch with.

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The second toy Eleven decided to chew on was the treat dispenser, then moved on to the Elwood stick.  This stick is great for playing fetch outside.  It’s a lot easier to throw farther than a tennis ball and get out of her mouth.  Also, my favorite part, it’s super easy to clean.

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The cutest part is whenever I come home now Eleven greets me at the door with this stuffless bone.  Currently, she just learned how to rip stuffing out of toys, therefore the fact that this is stuffless, I absolutely love.

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PupJoy is very unlike other dog subscription boxes.  They are the only box that has treats for dogs with dietary needs, customizable toy options depending on what type of chewer your dog is, and customizable delivery options.  They work directly with indie brands to have the best quality, natural, and organic products. The best part is ordering from PupJoy your money is also going to a great cause.  A portion of every order is donated to help shelter animals find loving homes.

 

 

 

Pact Organic Is Your One Stop For Ethical Leggings

The fashion industry is not always the most ethical industry in the world.  That is why I like finding brands that are doing business for a purpose.  Pact Organic is committed to organic cotton to minimize their impacts on the environment.  They improve the quality of life and improve conditions of the people who make their clothing.

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Pact Organic united the collective vision of responsible manufacturing, cotton farming, values-based shopping, and sustainable and ethical certifications.  Growing organic cotton keeps families and farmers safe.  The are not exposed to the toxic chemicals in the water supply and in the fields or through their food.  This means that farmers can grow more than one crop with supplements their income and food.

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Pact Organic has clothing for everyone.  The have a womens, mens, and kids line.  The other great thing about Pact Organic is their prices.  Many ethical clothing companies tend to be more money, but pact is reasonably priced and have sales often.

Why You Need To Know About KVossNYC Cosmetics

A few months ago, I totally did not care about organic or natural anything when it came to cosmetics.  Then I went on Accutane, and quickly learned how important it was to look into what your putting on your skin and hair.

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I loved finding new organic companies and learning their story on what motivates them to start their business. Being a small business owner myself, I always try to look for female entrepreneurs I can support just by buying their product.

Kristen Voss started her business four years ago in her tiny kitchen in NYC.  When she was younger her mother had skin cancer.  She never went out in the sun, but she was freckled head to toe with red hair.  When her mother was diagnosed with cancer it didn;t make any sense.

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Voss started researching all the products she used to understand what was in the products her mother was using. Skin acts more as a sponge than a barrier. For example when you put something on your skin it goes into your bloodstream faster than if someone ate it. She created products to address all unique skincare needs and are made with the highest quality and effective ingredients.

After being on accutane the two things that are the most dry were my legs and my lips, I wanted to find something that would bring back my smooth skin that I had before taking accutane. Therefore I tried her body lotion and lip balm.

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My favorite part of the body lotion was it’s label. Whenever you look at a label of lotion in the drugstore their ingredient list is so tiny it’s a little hard to read because they don’t want you to know exactly what’s in it. Her label clearly showed what exactly is in the lotion. This lotion was perfect to put on your legs right after shaving. It was effective in soothing the damage a razer does to your skin.

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The second product I tried was her peppermint lip balm. What I loved about this lip balm was it was very light, while still moisturizing your lips. Also, it had the perfect amount of color for a lip balm.

4 Ways to Never Lose Your Rings

One of my biggest weaknesses is keeping organize.  You’d be surprised by the things I’ve lost, everything from socks to some of my favorite pieces of jewelry. Jewelry is incredibly easy to loose, but it is also very easy to keep organized if you just add one thing to your life.

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What I’m talking about is a ring dish.  It’s the perfect size to keep all your jewelry you wear every day and is small enough for your bathroom sink or your nightside table.  All the items below are made by Elycia Camille, which is a handmade Ceramic Art business on Etsy.

1. The newlyweds

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Any bride who opens this gift is going to love it because her husband will always have a safe place to put his wedding ring.  It also is a cute gift for a couple to keep for their new life together.

2. The fashionista

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This is perfect for someone who always has new bling they wanna show off.  It’s very important to take your rings off before you go in the water, even for a shower.  This way nothing will get lost or tarnished.

3. Your mother

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Just in time for mother’s day! This gift is perfect for any mother.  Over the years you’ve gotten her plenty of jewelry and now she has a place to keep it all.

4. Your Dad

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At least, in my opinion, I never know what to get my dad.  This is the perfect gift for your dad to hold on to his cuff links.

4 Steps To Create A Flawless Natural Look

Creating the “natural look” is commonly known as being more challenging than it looks.  The thing is it is if you’re using the wrong products.  These five products from IBY Beauty will make this effortless look actually effortless.

1. Conceal & Highlight Pen

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After washing your face in the morning apply this concealer.  This pen does a grat job of covering unwanted dark spots or blemishes.  It also works as a great highlighter, to emphasize your face.

2.  BB Cream

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BB cream is perfect to use for a light makeup.  This look is perfect for the summer months.  The reason being is BB Cream also has SPF and your face will be protected from the sun.

3. Brow Tint

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First, let me say that this brow tint is absolutely amazing.  A few years ago I got a brow tint and they stopped making it.  And since then I haven’t been able to find anything to come close until this brown tint.

4. Lip Stain Pen

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This lip stain is perfect for the right amount of color for your lips.  A common misconception is that you shouldn’t use any lip color for this look, but a little color make it look a lot better.

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