One show I absolutely love is the Mindy Project. The writing and the actors are absolutely wonderful. I always leave watching an episode laughing and happy. But the last few episodes have left me angry and sad. The reason was because of the character Danny.
For those who are not avid Mindy watchers, the show is about doctors in Manhattan. Mindy Kaling plays a doctor who is starting her own fertility clinic, but also just had a baby. Mindy is dating Danny who is also a doctor.
The thing is Mindy and Danny were always so adorable together because they were so different. Mindy is adorable and very millennial while Danny is very old school. What made me so angry and sad was that Danny was pressuring Mindy to give up everything to be a mother.
Not only did Danny say that Mindy would not be a good mother, but he was also tracking her ovulation tricking her into getting pregnant. Tricking someone into having a child is not only unfair to the mother, but also the baby. A woman has the right to choose if she wants to have a baby or not. Yes, if you’re in a relationship it’s a mutual decision, but if the other party does not want a child you shouldn’t be pressuring them into having one.
Being 19 years old, I definitely don’t know what it’s like to choose my career over my kid, but I also don’t think it has to be a choice. In my opinion, staying home full time or working full time does not make you any different of a mother. Being a good mother is about loving your child and making sure they are given everything they need in life. Giving up something of yourself, that you love, will not make you a better mother. Your child will not think less of you that you did not stay home with them. Mindy worked her ass off to get where she is, and shouldn’t have to give that up, or be with someone who makes her feel guilty about it.