What Really Goes Down In The Dm? A Code To How Guys Use Instagram

Instagram has quickly became the most popular social media platform used by people my age.  Over this past break, I got the lowdown about how guys used Instagram and it made me a little interested to know if what my friend thought was true, was actually how guys use this platform.

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Last year I was in a room with the guy I was seeing at the time and a group of his friends.  One of his friends pulls out his phone and starts analysing this girl’s profile, seeing if she was cool enough to hook up with.

I haven’t had a personal Instagram for a few years now and when I did it was pretty much pictures of my dog and when I went out to eat I’d take a pic.  A few weeks ago, I got a text from a friend asking me to “approve” of her Instagram. The photo was clearly edited and staged, which kinda surprised me.

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Today people go to extreme lengths to get attention from people on social media.  From editing their photos to going through the “following” setting on Instagram to see what their friends are liking.

I decided I wanted some answers to some of the things my friends were talking about, when talking about the guys that interact with them on Instagram.

1. How do you use Instagram?

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“Let’s just say Instagram is on that bottom toolbar of my most used apps on my phone, right next to my messages app.” The answers I got for this question were pretty much all the same.  The guy would check it a few times a day to stay connected to their friends as well as keeping their friends updated on their life.

2.What entices you to like a girl’s photo? ( ex. To get her attention, or is it a harmless)

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“I mean, I never usually have ulterior motives, usually it’s like, wow! She looks really nice, I’ll leave a like! Or sometimes someone will make an edgy joke or post a sweet meme I’ll give that shit a like.”  This was one of the questions I was most interested, and here’s the reason why.  For this experiment, I went through the following setting to see what photos the guy I followed like.  Every guy I interviewed said they check Instagram a couple times a day, but only one of them liked a photo that day.  The guy in question said “Attractiveness plays a role” and the photos he liked were both of girls.  I also found it was very rare that a guy would come up in the “following” section and when they did the photo was in some way related to sports.

3. Have you ever DM someone on Instagram? If so why?

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“Yes, because that was the only form of contact I had with my lab partner in a college class. Also, I’m a part of a couple lit group meme sharing group chats.”  Out of the guys I asked, their DM’s consisted of group chats with friends sharing memes.

4. Have you ever posted a photo of your GF because you did something wrong?

This question had a little bit of a personal incentive to get the answer to why guys did appreciation posts.  Over the past summer, I had a friend who cheated on his girlfriend of years.  Instead of owning up to his infidelity he posted a photo of her on his Instagram in order to solve his relationship issues.  “I try to not get in that situation in the first place but if I do I generally try to apologize in person rather than posting a picture.”  All the guys had the same consensus that they wouldn’t post a photo in order to solve a problem, but one thing did come up interesting.

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Whenever I start talking to any guy the first thing I do is creep through his social media.  Not to find out who he is, but to find out if he also has a girlfriend.  “One time we argued and she posted a pic of us from my Instagram and I didn’t take it down if that counts. It was a pretty dope photo though regardless of the circumstance.” Going through his Instagram before this photo it didn’t look like he had a girlfriend, which he has been dating for over a year.  The girl even tagged herself in the photo she posted to make sure no one was confused she was his babe.

5. What makes you post a photo on Insta?

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Girls tend to post on Instagram multiple times a week, while guys might post about four times a year.  Guys will post on a larger event “Life events, share a memory.”  Rather than just their pink drink on Instagram.

6. Do you Insta creep? If so, on who?

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Of all the guys, the most I got them to admit they Insta creep was “I sometimes Insta creep on people who I just met or don’t know too well just to get a better feel of them or see what their interests are.” Out of all the guys I interviewed only one admitted to creeping on more than once.  “Honestly, yeah. I have an Instagram for my band as well, and I’ve used that to creep on my ex.” A guy sees someone’s photo for about a millisecond, and even if they do like it they’re not analyzing it, because they’ve already moved on.  There is really no reason to need to have a “perfect” feed because the only one creeping on you is your friends or people you don’t even talk to anymore in high school.

7. Do you analyse girls profiles? (ex. Oh she looks cool, just from her photos)

 

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“I would say most of the time I judge people based on their profile whether I mean to or not.”  When Instagram first started pretty much no one shared selfies and now it’s pretty rare someone posts a photo of just their meal.  Instagram was probably started as a way to share photos, but now some people think their self-worth is defined by how many likes they get on a photo.  And if it’s not as many likes as the others, they delete it.

*When looking for gifs for this photo, I search Judging gif.  What came up was a bunch of gifs of girls doing the stink eye.  Life isn’t the bachelor, but it seems that girls are still competing for guys and giving “stink eyes” other girls.  Let’s try to end that.

8. Do you use social media to get girls attention?

This is one of the most talked about aspects of Instagram and even more now that they have the story feature.  For this question it was split,  the guys I interviewed for who used it for attention and those who don’t.  “I don’t specifically use social media for this purpose but I can’t say it doesn’t cross my mind when posting.”  None of them completely said it was their whole purpose of posting a photo because they do only post when something interesting happened in their life therefore their posts are not that direct.

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What is most misconstrued is that it means anything that they look at your story first.  It doesn’t mean they like you, it only means they happen to be on their phone at that moment.  It’s actually even worse if they’re the first one to view it every time cause that means they have nothing better to do.  It only means something if they never view it for a consistent amount of time.

9. Are there certain people that you get happy when they like your photo?

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Pretty much every guy admitted to getting happy when someone particular likes their photo.  “Yes definitely, I’m even guilty of looking at who likes my pictures.” Only one guy said, “I like when I get likes. Period. (I’m desperate.) Or I don’t really care. I don’t know, it depends what kind of mood I’m in.”

10. If you’re in a relationship and you like other girls photos, is it all harmless?

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“Totally harmless, I would never cyber cheat.”  With the “following” section on Instagram pretty much your every move is tracked, unless the person you’re following is private.  That being said, if someone you’re dating is liking a girls photo it probably means nothing.  Not saying if you do have some suspicions you should ignore them, but talk to him before going cray.

11.  What really goes down in the DM?

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Many of the guys I interviewed said the only thing that fills up their DMs are group chats where they mainly send memes.  When asked what they typically thought about what goes down in the DM I got this response.  “You tell me, come find my DMs @…. I like to imagine it as “hey, I looked through the last 5 months of your Instagram history.” “awwww, thats so sweet and not creepy at all.” “yeah, I had a boner the whole time? U want mak fuk?!” “of course I would love to be nude and alone in a building with you!” All of the guys I interviewed, the only thing they admitted to going down in the DM was getting someone’s phone number.  Therefore if any guy is DMing you he is probably a weirdo.  There are so many normal ways to get someone’s photo today and therefor if his only way to contact you is through a DM he’s not worth it.

Everything You Need to Know about Falmouth Main Street

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Besides Provincetown, in my opinion, Falmouth Main Street is one of the best streets on Cape Cod. It’s home to one of a kind businesses with unique items you can not find anywhere else. It also has some of the tastiest restaurants on the cape.

Anejo Mexican Bistro 

 

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One of the most delicious mexican restaurants on the cape. Whether you go there for their amazing guac or the tequila, you will never leave disappointed.

American Sunglasses 

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America Sunglasses are the most popular names in designer sunglasses. They carry everything from high end designers like Prada to the best lifestyle glasses from Ray-Ban.

Bear In Boots Gastropub 

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Eating at Bear in Boots Gastropub is one of the best experiences you can have on a Saturday night. They have one of a kind food and they have great entertainment on the weekends.

Ben and Bill’s Chocolate Emporium 

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I’m a complete chocolate enthusiast, so it’s pretty easy to say this place has been a must stop since I was a little kid.

Black Dog General Store 

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 This store started on the Vineyard, it’s only fitting that their store is located in the heart of Falmouth Main Street.

 

Blast From the Past 

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When you walk into this store, it will feel like you are brought back to the 50’s.  This is a great store to get an authentic gift for your friends who loves Marilyn Monroe.

 Board Stiff 

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If you skate, surf, or love Billabong, you need to stop by this store next time you’re in town.  They have a great variety of clothing and shoes.

Caline For Kids 

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If you’re looking for some cute Cape Cod kids clothing, stop by Caline For Kids.

Celebrations

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This store is great for when you are shopping for a gift for someone special.  During Christmas time this store will put any Grinch into the Holiday spirit.

Eight Cousins 

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My favorite book store in town; they have one of the best selections of books and also offer you a quiet place to read them.

Ghelfi’s Candies & Ice Cream 

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Ghelfi’s Candies offers a premium selection of homemade candies.  Some of my favorites include their homemade barks and dipped oreos.

Green Eyed Daisy 

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When this store moved to Main Street a few years ago it instantly became my favorite place to shop.  It has some of the most gorgeous clothing in Falmouth, and dresses that will make you host an event just to have a place to wear them.

Headlines Salon and Day Spa

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If you need to get your hair done on Main Street and want a cut that is Instagram worthy, go no further than Headlines.

Homespun Garden

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One thing I love about this store is everytime you go there, the inside always looks different.  In the spring it’s decorated with fairies and during Halloween (my favorite) it is decorated spooky chic.

In the Pink 

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If you’re looking for your colorful Lilly fix, this store will be your heaven.   They also carry clothing from Resort and Shift.

La Cucina Sul Mare 

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If you’re looking for an Italian dinner that will blow your taste buds, you need to make a reservation here.

Liam Maguire’s Irish Pub and Restaurant 

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This places is one of the best places to grab a beer in Falmouth.  They also have karaoke Tuesdays during the summer, and nothing is better than watching people “sing”.

Maison Villatte

After eating at this bakery you would think you just teleported to France.  My favorite is the raspberry tart but, what ever you order here you will not be disappointed.

Maxwell & CO 

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When you’re waiting for you table to be ready at Anejo stop by Maxwell’s.  They have a great collection of contemporary clothing.

Parkside Market

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Perfect place to pick up a sandwich for lunch at the beach.   My go to is the farmhouse sandwich.

Puritan Cape Cod

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If you’re looking for a winter coat or boots in the winter or some scandals or swim apparel in the summer this is the best place to go.  They carry some of the best brands that are known to last.

Quarterdeck Restaurant 

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If you’re craving some great seafood this is the place you need to make your reservation.

Simply Divine Pizza Company  

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My favorite restaurant in town.  Not only do they have the best pizza in town, they also have some pretty delicious sandwiches.

The Pickle Jar Kitchen

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One of the best breakfast places in town in my opinion. If you’re a person who likes a sweet or savory breakfast, you’ll love this place.

Touche

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If you’re looking for some Cape Cod inspired jewelry, this is my favorite place to get pieces in Falmouth.

Twigs

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Twigs is one the my favorite little gift shops in Falmouth. They have jewelry made by local artists and cute Cape Cod housewares.

What’s in My Beach Bag

We are about half way through summer and sadly I’ve been to the beach only a few times.  I know, I think last summer I went at least a few times a week.  As a native Cape Codder, I know a little about how to pack the perfect beach bag.  So here we go.

My bag

My beach bag is not your typical colorful bag, but I love the fridge, also it’s has a round shape and no sand gets stuck inside of it.  I got this bag from American Eagle probably last summer for under $10.  If you’re ever looking for an inexpensive well made a bag look for an end of season sales at American eagle.

The Travel Bottle

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Never ever go to the beach without a water bottle.  The reason is no one wants to stand on the hot pavement waiting for the millions of kids trying to get their ice cream.  You don’t have to fill it with water, the beverage is up to you.

Viter Energy

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For me, I’m always exhausted at the beach, but where do you get good coffee at the beach? The answer, is sadly nowhere, at least on the cape.  These mints are super tasty and actually give you some energy to beat everyone in can jam.

Bare Republic Thermal Serum

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Lets just say, the sun is horrible.  I got a sunburn on my leg yesterday from just eating lunch outside.  The sun is also very damaging to your hair, but this serum can help protect it.  Also, you can use it as a detangler and a leave in conditioner.

Maaji Swimwear

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I absolutely love this brand more than you could ever know.  I probably spend hours going through their website wishing I could buy everything.  They have extremely creative patterns and literally everything you could need.  From bags to yoga pants.

KVOSSNYC Lotion

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I always put the lotion in my beach bag, because my skin is always so dry.  Always keep your skin hydrated when you’re out.

13 Things You Know If You’re A Girl Who Gets Ready In 15 Minutes

In junior high, it makes me a little sad how long it took me to get ready, yet I was late pretty much every day.  When high school came around, school started at 7:30am and I don’t know how I made that when I complain about my 10am class now.  In high school, I used to be able to shower, do my makeup, and have straightened hair in 20 minutes.  Today, every morning I get up 15 minutes before I have to leave and am never rushing to my first class.

1. You can do your makeup in under 5 minutes

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Sticking to a basic routine has two pros. One is you get so good at it it only takes about five minutes to do your makeup.  The second is no one ever knows you wear makeup because you only have five minutes, no time for winged eyeliner, therefore no one ever thinks you’re even wearing makeup.

2. You’ve mastered the art of multitasking

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My most impressive multitasking is doing my makeup while brushing my hair.  When you’re crunched for time, because well you love your sleep, you learn some tricks that are actually super useful.

3. You’ve lost count of how many times you’ve worn those leggings

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We all have “those” leggings.  The ones that sit somewhere in your room or on the hook in your bathroom.  Even though you may have a couple more pairs you just love these ones.  Therefore you may forget how many times you’ve worn them.

4. You’re not a morning person

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The only time you’re awake before 9 is because food is involved and even then you have to think about it again.

5. You have a morning alarm, but never stick to it

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Every day my alarm goes off at 9am, but I don’t think I’ve ever gotten out of bed at that time.  I continually set timers that go off until I have 15 minutes before I have to leave.

6. You’ll scroll through your phone until you absolutely have to wake up.

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On the days where you’re awake, but don’t feel like participating in life just yet.  You start going through your phone because so much has changed since you went to bed at 1am.

7. You don’t understand why you didn’t do this in high school

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You used to wake up hours before class and now you’re waking up 15 minutes before and even looking better.

8. You wear the same pieces of clothing in a loop

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You have your classic pieces hanging somewhere in your room you can grab in a rush.  My current favorite it is maroon yoga hoodie.  Have I ever done yoga? No, but who has to know.

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I don’t understand how people have time to shower, and no one wants to walk outside in winter with wet hair.  Therefore, if your hair looks a little greasy just spray in some dry shampoo.

10. You love your nighttime showertumblr_m8npscayyu1rb2mc1o1_500.gif

 

If you do have time to take a shower, it’s about 45 seconds and you don’t have any time to relax.  You love your nighttime shower because you have time to sing through your favorite song.

11. The last time you sat down and ate breakfast was pre-k

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I don’t remember the last time I ate a breakfast sitting down.  You love just grabbing something to go, eating it in your first class, or stopping by your favorite place on campus to get food.

12. You continue to challenge yourself

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I’m always seeing how fast I can get ready.  It’s fun because whenever I challenge myself I end up getting ready even faster than planned.

13. You haven’t failed so far, so why stop now?

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You have never failed.  Your routine is an accomplishment you can talk to your friends about, sharing your secrets about how to look flawless without taking hours.

My Top 5 Tips For Shopping At TJ Maxx

I would like to start off by saying I hate shopping.  I still have flashbacks from having to try on shirts multiple times in a dressing room with the store employee asking if I’m okay.  I love to do my shopping in my bed and preferably on Amazon.  Recently I’ve started to go to Tj’s to pick up things for my new dog.  I found that Amazon was actually more expensive and the quality was way higher at Tj Maxx.  Like pretty much everything in life, shopping is always better with a few strategies, here’s a few of my tips.

1.Go to your local store, not online

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In my opinion, I always find better things at the store that are also less expensive.  The main reason behind this is the online store has more expensive brands and a smaller collection.  For example you can’t buy bras or many home items online.

2. Never go on the weekends

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This is one of my biggest rules about Tj Maxx.  On the weekends, the store is packed and sometimes you don’t get to relax and look through everything.  You could miss out on a great deal because you skipped over the section because a woman was standing in the way for ten minutes.

3. Always check the clearance

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Even if you’re going there for a black pair of pants you only need for work, always check the clearance (unless you’re strapped for time).  Some of my favorite things for my house I found in the clearance; sometimes you even find some funny stuff you just have to get.

4. Shop during January and July

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Stores tend to try to clear out inventory during these months to make room for the new season.  This could be the best time to get your winter jacket or bathing suit.

5. Use the Amazon Price comparison app

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All you have to do is simply scan the barcode and you can figure out if you’re getting a good deal.  Everyone knows about the “compare at” price on all their tags.  Well that “compare at” price is sometimes very inflated to make it seem like you’re getting a better deal.

4 Ways to Never Lose Your Rings

One of my biggest weaknesses is keeping organize.  You’d be surprised by the things I’ve lost, everything from socks to some of my favorite pieces of jewelry. Jewelry is incredibly easy to loose, but it is also very easy to keep organized if you just add one thing to your life.

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What I’m talking about is a ring dish.  It’s the perfect size to keep all your jewelry you wear every day and is small enough for your bathroom sink or your nightside table.  All the items below are made by Elycia Camille, which is a handmade Ceramic Art business on Etsy.

1. The newlyweds

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Any bride who opens this gift is going to love it because her husband will always have a safe place to put his wedding ring.  It also is a cute gift for a couple to keep for their new life together.

2. The fashionista

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This is perfect for someone who always has new bling they wanna show off.  It’s very important to take your rings off before you go in the water, even for a shower.  This way nothing will get lost or tarnished.

3. Your mother

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Just in time for mother’s day! This gift is perfect for any mother.  Over the years you’ve gotten her plenty of jewelry and now she has a place to keep it all.

4. Your Dad

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At least, in my opinion, I never know what to get my dad.  This is the perfect gift for your dad to hold on to his cuff links.

4 Steps To Create A Flawless Natural Look

Creating the “natural look” is commonly known as being more challenging than it looks.  The thing is it is if you’re using the wrong products.  These five products from IBY Beauty will make this effortless look actually effortless.

1. Conceal & Highlight Pen

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After washing your face in the morning apply this concealer.  This pen does a grat job of covering unwanted dark spots or blemishes.  It also works as a great highlighter, to emphasize your face.

2.  BB Cream

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BB cream is perfect to use for a light makeup.  This look is perfect for the summer months.  The reason being is BB Cream also has SPF and your face will be protected from the sun.

3. Brow Tint

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First, let me say that this brow tint is absolutely amazing.  A few years ago I got a brow tint and they stopped making it.  And since then I haven’t been able to find anything to come close until this brown tint.

4. Lip Stain Pen

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This lip stain is perfect for the right amount of color for your lips.  A common misconception is that you shouldn’t use any lip color for this look, but a little color make it look a lot better.

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13 Things You’ll Just Get If You’re A Low-Maintenance Girly Girl

This is for the girls like me.  You love fashion, but don’t like the word “high-maintenance”  because you’re not.  You like how you dress and are chill af.

1. You love makeup, but you refuse to spend more than 5 minutes doing it.

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You love looking at makeup tutorials on YouTube, but never spend more than a couple minutes doing your own.  It’s a classic look you love and have found the best products over the years.

2.You know all the latest makeup trends, you never take time to try them out.

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You know every makeup trend and say you want to try them out, but it never happens because you know soon they’ll be onto something else.

3. You’re a pro at getting ready in under 15 minutes.

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You can go from bed head to fabulous in under 15 minutes and awe everyone.

4.It drives you crazy when someone else takes forever and you have to wait for them.

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You are a little impatient when it comes to waiting for people to get ready.  It’s because you don’t understand because you can do everything in a few minutes when it takes others hours.

5. You have hair straighteners and curlers, but never use them because your look is classic.

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You have a curling wand and the latest straightener that won’t harm your hair, but you’ll never use them.  You like your hair how looks and don’t over think it.

6. Your beauty routine is constant and only consists of a few products.

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Over the years your beauty routine has changed.  You’ve found products that work and some that don’t. Today you have your small set or products you love and use daily.

7. You love dry shampoo.

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It’s perfect for mornings you don’t have time to shower and just need your hair looking your best.

8. You love looking at expensive things but never buying them.

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You love reading fashion magazines, looking at all the gorgeous dresses that were worn at the Oscars, but you don’t need anything that fancy.

9. You love online shopping.

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You have flashbacks of being a kid and having to try on everything because your mother needed you to. Today you love the convenience of being home and shopping online.

10. For you, feeling comfortable is absolutely key.

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You love finding clothing that is cute and comfy af.  You have pieces of clothing that are very stylish, but people would never know you actually bought them in the sleepwear section.

11. You have a closet of clothing, but wear the same five things.

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You have your favorite pieces, probably the newest things you just bought in a haul.  You wear the same few pieces and try different ways to style them.

12. Your nails are never painted.

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You love nail art, but don’t see the point of painting your nails.  You have a large selection of nail polish you’ve collected over the years, but never use it.

13. You’re chill, but like to look cute.

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You look amazing at your 8ams and everyone thinks your outfit took so much effort.  But really you got up 15 minutes before your class.

I Went Braless For A Month And Am Never Going Back

I would just like to start off that this was one of the best experiments I’ve ever done, even better when I did the mentos and diet Pepsi experiments in the 7th grade.

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I got this idea because I was getting very annoyed with bras.  My top reason was that they are expensive, uncomfortable, and I wanted to find out if they were even necessary.  There’s been many studies that there is no benefit to wearing a bra.  According to a recent French study, boobs gain more tone and support when you don’t wear a bra. The study found that when you’re wearing a bra “supporting tissues will not grow and even they will wither and the breast will gradually degrade.” That means you’re basically atrophying your boobs when wearing a bra.

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A little about my relationship with bras.  I’ve been wearing a bra since probably the 6th grade. My bra size is a 32C: not that small, not that big.  I started going braless when I started my semester after winter break.

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At first, it is a little weird going braless. Before this, the only time I was braless was when I was sleeping.  You do feel a little bare and feel like everyone can notice because you’re not used to not wearing anything to support your girls throughout the day.

The first thing I realized was how much more comfortable I was during the day.  I’m a broke college student, therefore no fancy Victoria’s Secret bras for me.  I would get indents from the wires and was constantly moving them to make them more comfortable.

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Then, when the weekend came around, I was getting ready to go out and I thought, “is this too much?”  After a few times, I got use to the idea and I gained more confidence about my boobs.  I always wasn’t very positive about them because they’re not that big.

When I was working out or wearing a shirt that I thought was too revealing to wear to class without one, I wore a bralette.   What I would do is buy a sports bra that looked very similar to a bralette and it was one of the most comfortable things ever.  I would wear it under all my open knit sweaters.  My name sweater got a classic sexy look.

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Lastly, I want to comment on the comments I got for going braless.  The first thing I would like to say is that no one realized I wasn’t wearing a bra.  The people I told were very supportive of the project and gave me advice on my outfits – seeing if you could tell I wasn’t wearing one or if it was too inappropriate.

The last thing I want to talk about is how guys viewed it.  I would like to say first and foremost that a way a woman dresses is not an invitation and I didn’t do this to get any type of attention from guys.  But I did get a response from a guy I was talking to at the time.  I told him what I was going braless and he said, “so you’re trying to get fucked?” First off, I think any girl doesn’t have to not wear a bra to get hit on.  Also, going up to a girl and instantly looking at her chest isn’t going to get you anywhere.

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After the end of the month, I took out all my bras from the dresser and put them away.  The only reason I would ever wear one now if for some reason I had a formal event where it was mandatory. With bralettes being as cute as they are and as comfy, there doesn’t really seem to be a need for me to ever own a bra again.

13 Things To Wear When Weather Gets Confusing

Even though it’s a little worry some that it’s not snowing this month, I’m enjoying the nice weather.  The only problem is I have no idea what to wear in this in between weather.  It’s too hot for a jacket, scarf, and a hat, but it’s too cool to wear just a sweater.  Here’s the guide we all need for this weather.

1. Lightweight longline bomber

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These are great for when you’re going out.  The reason being is it’s still a little chilly to be bare legged, but a longline bomber will keep you warm.

2. Scarfs

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It’s the perfect thing to bring with you when you’re unsure about the weather.  If it’s too warm it’s so small you can always just throw it in your bag.

3. Wool coats

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I know what you’re thinking, wool? Really? But they are perfect for a day out in inbetween weather.  The reason being is you don’t have to zip or button them up.

4. Light jacket, with a mini tee

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I just got a mini tee and love it.  Tees are one of the most underrated tops.  It’s a perfect opportunity to wear a pair of high waisted jeans. A light jacket will keep you cozy when you’re outside.

5. Bright accessories

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With warmer weather it’s a great chance to start wearing your favorite baby pink bag that you thought you could only wear in spring and summer.

6. Mini skirts

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I did this last week when the weather was so nice, warm, and it was amazing.  Stick to colors that are still wintery like denim, suede, or corduroy.

7. Light sweater

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Don’t worry – sweater weather is still not over.  Just trade in your wool knit sweaters for lighter ones.  They are perfect under a light jacket.

8. Statement coats

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Remember that leopard print coat you bought thinking you’d wear so much, but it’s always been so cold? Good for you this warmer weather let’s you wear that coat all you want.

9. Sneakers

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No need to worry about messing up your converse that you can’t possibly get any type a scuff mark on. Also, sneakers are super cute and way easier to walk in than heels.

10. Leather Moto jackets

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These a great because they add the perfect amount of warmth.  They also look amazing zipped up or better yet not zipped.

11. Long sleeve crop tops

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These are great for when you’re going out.  Let’s just say this warmer weather has made going out so much better.  You look cute and you’re also not freezing.

12. Draping

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No longer is this look for people who think they’re “too cool”.  This is perfect for when you’re walking around town and need a little warmth and love your winter jacket.

13. Overalls

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Match your overalls with a sleeveless turtleneck.  It’s perfect for when you’re going in between chilly and warm.  For example going between classes.